Mindfulness & Self-Compassion Guidance

The Practice

Put simply, meditation is an activity of receptivity, of allowing thoughts, feelings and emotions to come and go. It is openness. It's normal for the mind to be busy and active. Meditation is not about emptying the mind, but allowing whatever is present to just be. 

People think they can't meditate, or are failing at meditation because their mind is noisy. The practice of meditation is actually quite simple. When thoughts keep us distracted during meditation, we notice and observe present thoughts, feelings, emotions and body sensations, then gently guide awareness back to the breath or a point of focus.

As you practice, you will notice that meditation helps you gain clarity and calm. You will develop greater compassion for yourself and others. Symptoms such as urges, cravings, addictions, anxiety, depression, impatience, poor concentration and attention, negative self-concepts, agitation, anger, poor motivation and accelerated aging may be greatly reduced. Meditation also helps you access your creativity—you may find that you work, play and sleep better. You will also notice that you begin to know yourself better. You may develop greater tolerance for others.

I personally love rituals and creating an altar or dedicated area of the home or office to sit, but this is not a necessary component for your meditation practice to be helpful. Another mistake is to avoid meditation because you can't devote the time that you think is necessary to do it "properly." A few minutes count and will help you rest and restore.

The benefits of a regular meditation practice generalize to all aspects of your life, on and off the cushion. It is important to find a meditation style that works for you, and there are many. Some find movement and walking meditation more beneficial than sitting. Others prefer working with a professional or finding a community to support their practice. Some of my clients report the benefits of using some of the guided meditation apps on the market developed for Android or Apple to help them sleep or to use as breaks during their busy day. There are also many types of meditation styles to research such as these for example: TM, Mantra, Mindfulness, QiGong, Zazen, Breath Awareness, Body Scan, Kundalini and Loving Kindness. What matters most is to find what resonates for you! 

About Mindfulness

Developed more than two decades ago at the University of Massachusetts Medical Center by Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., mindfulness training helps a person live in the present moment in an effort to better handle the ups and downs of life. By intentionally bringing a non-judgmental awareness to breathing, body sensations, moods, thoughts and feelings including: fear, anger, frustration, desire, and self-doubt. As such, person is better equipped to deal with the challenges of life. This very special kind of attentiveness enables one to acquire new insights about life situations, and in turn, develop ways to consciously respond, rather than react to the conditions of life.

How does one practice mindfulness?

People simply observe what arises in the body and mind, perceiving each experience as an event in their own field of awareness. This fuller, moment to moment, non-judgmental awareness known as Mindfulness frees one to make clearer and more attuned decisions.Mindfulness is learning to work with what is, acceptance of reality, in a less reactive and judgmental manner. 

Most people report an increased ability to relax, greater resilience, more energy and enthusiasm for life, increased self-confidence and an enhanced ability to cope more effectively with both short and long-term, stressful situations. The practice of Mindfulness teaches practitioners a way of being more deeply present in the body with a range of thoughts and emotions. 

Mindfulness is an elegant and simple approach to living a meaningful life. Western medicine is now recognizing Mindfulness as a powerful, evidence-based tool for dealing with trauma, PTSD symptoms, attachment deficits, chronic stress, pain, depression, anxiety, addictions, eating disorders, overwhelming feelings and emotions and many other medical and psychological conditions. 

HOLISTIC PSYCHOTHERAPY & WELLNESS NYC

Philosophy

For nearly twenty years, this holistically-oriented NYC Psychotherapy & Wellness Practice has blended what I’ve found to be the most effective practices in psychology, neurobiology, attachment, alternative practices, nutrition, coaching and mind-body medicine working with individuals and couples. As a holistic psychotherapist, I believe it’s important to address the root cause of emotional and psychological suffering. It’s important to know that we all make the most therapeutic progress in a compassionate and non-judgmental environment. I make every effort to ensure patient comfort and ease. Countless studies have shown that finding the right "fit" with a therapist is more important than the technique that is used. As a trauma-trained therapist I am influenced by humanist and existential philosophy, relational theory, attachment theory, psychoanalytic concepts, mindfulness, and somatic, mind and body psychology. My couple and marriage counseling work is influenced by Gottman Method, Internal Family Systems and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). As neuroscience now shows us, the body and mind are inextricably linked—my 20+ years of experience with mindfulness, yoga therapy, and meditation greatly influence my work as a mental health provider. A Holistic and comprehensive therapy model ensures that you thrive in the many aspects of your life—including your relationship with your self and others. You will enjoy a more satisfying, rewarding, and joyful life, no matter your struggles, challenges, or diagnoses. I enjoy continuing education, and I’ve received extensive training and certification in a range of evidence-based and cutting-edge approaches to offer you this holistic model of care. Together, we work with practices designed to create an environment that supports optimal physical and mental health wellbeing. Lasting change and transformation is possible when given the right tools to thrive.

Training

  • Somatic Experiencing® International (in progress)

  • Eating Disorders, Compulsions & Addictions (EDCAS) Certification

    William Alanson White Institute of Psychiatry, Psychoanalysis & Psychology

  • EMDR Advanced Level EMDR Practitioner - Laurel Parnell PhD

  • Brainspotting - Lisa Schwarz, MEd

  • Positive Neuroplasticity Training Certification - Rick Hanson PhD

  • Nutrition and Integrative Medicine for Mental Health - Leslie Korn PhD

  • IFS Immersion: Integrating Internal Family Systems Across Clinical Applications - Frank Anderson, PhD

  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy - Behavior Tech Institute

  • Advanced CBT Certification - New York University

  • Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Certification - New York University

  • Advanced Clinical Practice Certification - New York University

  • Clinical Approaches to the Addictions - Certification New York University

  • Clinical Practice with Adolescents - Certification New York University

  • Mindful Self-Compassion Training - Christopher K. Germer, PhD & Kristen Neff PhD

  • Executive Life Coaching - New York University

  • Institute for Life Coach Training

  • Urban Zen Integrative Therapy Training Program

  • Institute For Integrative Nutrition

    Additional Professional Training: Gottman Institute for Couples, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hypnosis for Trauma & PTSD, Focusing Institute, Whole Body Focusing with Glenn Fleisch, Ph.D

    Ongoing workshops: Ester Perel, Bessel van der Kolk, MD, Dan Siegel, MD, Peter Levine, Ph.D, Gabor Mate, MD, Richard Schwartz, PhD, Sue Johnson, IFS, Somatic Experiencing, Trauma-Focused Treatment, Yoga Therapy, Phoenix Rising Yoga Therapy

Expertise

  • Depression (major, postpartum depression, SAD, bipolar disorder, atypical depression, dysthymia, situational depression, chronic sadness)

  • Anxiety (panic disorder, generalized anxiety, phobias, social anxiety, PTSD, fear, worry, insomnia, emotional regulation), stress management, insomnia

  • Women’s hormonal health, perimenopause and menopause mental health assessment/coaching, chronic pain

  • Trauma resolution and PTSD therapy

  • Crisis counseling, life-challenges, transitions and overwhelm

  • Obstacles, blocking beliefs and feeling “stuck” in your life

  • Dysfunctional relationship dynamics and patterns in professional and personal relationships, communication difficulties, divorce, separation

  • Fear of success and fear of failure, harshly critical of oneself and others

  • Spiritual or existential concerns, shadow work, life purpose, energetic blocks, boundary work

  • Difficulties with work and life balance

  • Addictions, behavioral addictions, substance abuse, alcoholism and compulsions

  • Performance blocks, perfectionism, self-blame, negative self-image and self-sabotage

  • Feeling unworthy, undeserving, “not enough”, personal empowerment, identification of needs and trouble saying “no”

  • Compliance, accommodation, conflict avoidance, communication difficulties and impasses

  • Narcissistic abuse identification and recovery

  • Empath and highly sensitive person (HSP) coaching

  • Codependency, family conflict resolution, submissiveness and recovery from family enmeshment, ACOA adult children of alcoholics

  • Grief, loss and bereavement

  • Recovery and post-rehab support (for individuals in all stages of recovery from addictions, alcohol, eating disorders, anxiety, depression, trauma, pre-rehab, post-rehab, residential step-down support, wellness planning, new habit maintenance and self-care)

  • EMDR Therapy, Trauma Resolution, Unblocking & Manifesting

  • Celebrity mental health expertise and high-profile, VIP clients, therapy for entrepreneurs, executives, creatives, medical professionals

Modalities

  • Psychoanalytic, Relational & Interpersonal Psychotherapy

  • Attachment-Focused Couple Therapy (traditional, non-traditional, alternative lifestyle couples)

  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), DBT Skills

  • Solution-Focused Brief Therapy Consultation

  • Advanced level EMDR Therapy, Parts Therapy, Integrated Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Couple Therapy (Traditional, Non Traditional Couples)

  • Sexual Counseling (Traditional & Alternative Lifestyle)

  • Somatic Psychotherapy

  • Positive Psychology, Positive Neuroplasticity Coaching

  • Nutrition & Integrative Medicine For Mental Health

  • Transformational & Wellness Coaching

  • Urban Zen Integrative Therapy, Reiki, Energy Medicine

  • Nutrition & Integrative Medicine For Mental Health, Nutritional Amino Acid Protocols (using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplement recommendations for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD, and more)

  • Clinical Hypnosis

Transform

If traditional “talk” therapy has not been enough to resolve your distressing symptoms, it might be time to try a different model of care. I’ve trained in many modalities, but I find myself returning to EMDR again and again. EMDR Therapy changed my practice years ago because it works and it changes lives. It is the one treatment method that is consistently powerful and transformative for my patients, especially when other highly-effective therapies such as IFS, CBT and Somatic Experiencing are integrated into sessions. Therapy is highly-individualized, and depending on your unique needs, chosen therapy modalities may include: EMDR, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, CBT, Internal Family Systems, Mindfulness and Somatic Experiencing®. I completed EMDRIA-approved EMDR advanced Levels I & II training and supervision many years ago and have used it in my New York City psychotherapy private practice consistently and with excellent results.

EMDR therapy is highly-effective at getting to the root cause of underlying beliefs and blocks that cause many to not benefit from traditional therapy or life coaching. EMDR treatment can elegantly help you transform surviving into thriving so you can lead a life without disruptive symptoms. Reprocessing difficult, disturbing or traumatic memories with EMDR leads to enhanced resiliency and vitality in the nervous system. EMDR treatment is an extensively researched and evidence-based method to help people recover from distressing life experiences, trauma, anxiety, panic, phobias, accidents, medical trauma and much more. EMDR is not just for trauma, it is also an excellent technique to enhance performance for athletes and creatives, or work and professional endeavors. It is especially helpful for clients who have worked hard in therapy or coaching, and find themselves wrestling with the same obstacles and patterns that initially led them to find a therapist or coach. We learned during the pandemic that EMDR can be offered to many patients virtually. Virtual EMDR is an effective and powerful tool to add to your therapy healing journey, as an adjunct to your existing therapy or as a stand-alone solution. LEARN MORE ABOUT EMDR

Teletherapy

faqs about online therapy in nYC: how does remote therapy/video therapy work?

While the technology for telemedicine has been available for decades, the pandemic made virtual therapy a necessity. Never did we imagine that so many individuals would benefit from online virtual therapy, but they did. Like many NYC therapists, I’ve been conducting virtual sessions for some time now, so I’m quite comfortable working with technology. Teletherapy is not a good fit for every person seeking counseling, and many simply prefer to conduct psychotherapy sessions in-person.

How does Online therapy work?

This New York City holistic psychotherapy and wellness practice understands that busy New Yorkers can’t always take time out of their day or week to commute to NYC therapy suites. Virtual therapy, as well as telephone therapy, is a modern option that has become the preferred way to conduct therapy and counseling for many, especially those who work or travel, couples with young children and different schedules, young adults, college students and expats. Online sessions make therapy easier for individuals struggling with social anxiety, agoraphobia, chronic illness, physical disabilities and those who reside in various parts of New York. After scheduling your online virtual session, I’ll send you a session link from my secure, HIPPA-compliant platform SimplePractice. You click on the link to my online waiting room and I admit you to my private virtual therapy office. It’s up to you to create an emotionally safe space in your home or office for our conversations. All you need is robust access to the internet. You can use your computer, IOS/Android phone, iPad, or any other tablet-enabled device. Most laptops have a built in videocam and mic, which makes it very easy.

What kind of therapy is offered virtually?

Online sessions are treated the same way as face-to-face sessions, using the same evidence-based therapy modalities, including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, Internal Family Systems (IFS), trauma therapy, psychodynamic psychotherapy, somatic psychotherapy, life coaching, wellness coaching and stress management. In fact, we’ve learned that remote EMDR can be just as effective for trauma resolution and other concerns as in-person EMDR. Of course, not everyone or every situation should be treated remotely, therefore, it’s important to reach out to potential therapists to determine if your situation is appropriate for virtual therapy. If you feel hesitant about discussing issues over video, you can even turn your webcam off, so that you can see your therapist but not be seen. Research now demonstrates that therapy sessions conduced by telehealth are just as effective as face to face therapy. Read the research.

Who can benefit from virtual therapy?

Just about anyone can enjoy private, confidential and convenient access to high-quality therapy. The decision to seek therapy with a highly-experienced psychotherapist can help you have healthier relationships, gain new perspectives, reach your goals and remain resilient during stressful and challenging times. Therapy can help you feel less alone with your problems, as well as feel supported as you work to improve your circumstances. Life in New York City offers a unique set of challenges. A fast-paced lifestyle and hectic schedules lead to high levels of stress and little time for rejuvenation and restoration of the nervous system. If you are experiencing feelings of anxiety and depression, loneliness, loss or are struggling with substance use or unresolved trauma PTSD, you are not alone. Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan offers highly-effective, evidence-based counseling and therapy practices, as well as an integrative psychotherapy philosophy that incorporates a range of helpful, healing strategies, individualized to meet your unique needs. Because I am a licensed psychotherapist in New York, I can see you whether you live in the NYC metro area or anywhere in the state. You have many modern options to help you get the therapy you need, including BetterHelp, TalkSpace, and of course, all the licensed psychotherapists and psychologists on Psychology Today who continue to offer high-quality therapy in the US and worldwide.

Using you health insurance benefits to assist with the cost of therapy

Holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan is In-Network with BCBS & Aetna, and Out-of-Network with most health insurances. I have also been reimbursed by Aetna, Cigna, BCBS, Emblem, Oxford, United and many more for out-of-network mental health services. Most of my clients are compensated for about 50-100% of my fees. Your insurance will refund a large portion of each session, as long as you have met your Out-of-Network deductible. If you have an Out-of-Network plan and have met your Out-of-Network deductible, your health plan will mail the partial refund in the form of a check to your home within a few weeks after each appointment.

How can an Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness Practice enhance your life?

  • Gain support through a personal crisis, transition, loss, trauma or challenging situation that causes personal or relational distress

  • Heal codependency and feel empowered, autonomous, safe and secure in your life as self-esteem naturally increases

  • Find relief for sadness, depression and chronic depression with interpersonal psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy and EMDR

  • Uncover unconscious conflicts and blocking beliefs that may be sabotaging your success and happiness

  • Address dissociation, body image, eating disorders, compulsions, addictions, substance use or abuse and obsessions

  • Learn to identify important thoughts, feelings, emotions, motivations and unconscious internal conflicts with insight-oriented therapy

  • Develop enhanced self-awareness as well as empathy and compassion for self and others with relational therapy

  • Break through blocks in intimacy, detach from unhealthy relationships and break patterns of repetition in significant relationships

  • Learn to identify triggers that lead to anger, confusion and relationship dysfunction in couple and relationship counseling

  • Develop effective, assertive communication skills to benefit personal and professional relationships

  • Learn more adaptive coping skills, self-care rituals, self-acceptance and mindfulness to create a healthy work-life balance

  • Uncover patterns of crippling perfectionism that interfere with achievement, success and personal happiness using EMDR

  • Process and heal painful feelings of loneliness, disappointment, sadness, loss, grief, guilt, shame, anger, envy and fear

  • Resolve trauma and abuse symptoms, develop healthier boundaries and heal early attachment wounds with EMDR Therapy

  • Recommendations for protocols using precursor amino acids, fatty acids, herbal medicine, supplements for mood, anxiety, ADHD, addictions, cravings, brain fog, PTSD

  • Diagnose & identify reproductive hormone-related (peri-menopause, menopause) anxiety, depression, insomnia, brain fog, low energy, pain, migraines, IBS, fibromyalgia

  • Learn self-care, meditation, breathing techniques, energy medicine & somatic therapy practices to regulate the nervous system

  • Obtain consultations for referrals to psychopharmacologists, psychiatrists, psychologists and other allied professionals