Kim Seelbrede is a psychotherapist and consultation therapist in private practice in New York City. She has extensive training and experience providing therapy services to adolescents, adults, couples and families in her Manhattan private practice. Kim's nature is curious, non-judgmental and compassionate; her psychotherapy and consultation practice reflects her core values of integrity and kindness, as well as offering a flexible and eclectic approach. Kim has received psychoanalytic psychotherapy training and primarily uses this approach with her patients. Because insight and awareness into one's patterns and conflicts may not always lead to change, she has found that integrating practical tools and skills into sessions can support desired growth and behavioral change. In addition to her relational and interpersonal training, she is able to integrate other techniques such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy or CBT, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy Skills or DBT, Solution-Focused techniques and Mindfulness as needed. In her counseling work with couples, she enjoys using her training with The Gottman Institute as well as Solution-Focused Therapy and Non-Violent Communication or NVC. Kim Seelbrede has been a student of psychology for decades and has enjoyed learning from a variety of disciplines and weaving that knowledge into her work when appropriate.
An Integrative Therapy Approach
Kim Seelbrede views many mental health issues such as addictions and eating disorders as symptoms that hold meaning, and as such, can be understood and healed when the root of the problem is addressed. She also believes in the importance of integrating important behavioral interventions into the treatment to further support healing. Individuals enter therapy for a variety of reasons, including the desire to find meaning and purpose in their lives and a search for a deeper connection to self and others. Kim is sensitive, open and respectful of individuals who seek answers to spiritual concerns, which she feels is the basis of much suffering today. To help address developmental and other sources of trauma, Kim Seelbrede is a level II EMDRIA trained EMDR therapist (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. EMDR can be used for trauma, attachment deficits, accidents, abuse, losses, anxiety, blocked energy, negative beliefs, physical symptoms, irrational emotions, phobias, addictions, compulsions, performance blocks and painful memories. She uses this modality to unlock the wisdom and innate healing capacity of the mind and body that has been blocked and can be unblocked.
Couples therapy or relationship counseling is designed to help clients work through relationship and communication problems and create or reconnect to love, respect and emotional closeness. I work with high-functioning couples helping them listen for and understand the emotional needs of the other. Kim Seelbrede has received training for couples from The Gottman Institute. Some individuals seek therapy without their partner to help them work on the relationship before finding a relationship counselor. She counsels couples in various states of relationships including: married, partnered and pre-marital, considering separation, divorce, newly-single and dating again in her Manhattan-based office or via Skype when schedules conflict.
Therapy for Depression and Anxiety
Depression and anxiety are common reasons teens, adolescents and adults seek help. Sometimes therapy and the process of talking with an experienced therapist helps resolve many symptoms. Often psychotherapy isn't enough and it's helpful to be open to other treatment techniques to change thoughts, feelings and behaviors. An integrative approach that includes, cognitive behavioral therapy or CBT, EMDR therapy, mindfulness, mind-body therapies and even medication can offer the best results.
Mood disorders include major depression, dysthymia, seasonal affective disorder, postpartum and situational depression as examples. A combination of interpersonal psychotherapy and cognitive behavioral therapy, and when appropriate medication, are effective treatments for depression.
Some examples of anxiety disorders include: generalized anxiety disorder, social anxiety, panic disorder, phobias and obsessive-compulsive disorder. There are a variety of treatment options to help individuals recover from anxiety and may involve an integrated approach such as EMDR therapy, psychoanalytic psychotherapy, cognitive behavioral therapy and relaxation techniques.
Therapy for Addiction Recovery
Kim Seelbrede views addictive behaviors as symptoms of other underlying unresolved issues and has developed a special interest in recovery support as well as having received specialized training in this area. Addictions such as substance abuse and process addictions are complex problems and can be successfully treated when other co-occurring difficulties are addressed. Common examples of co-occurring disorders include the combinations of major depression with cocaine addiction, borderline personality disorder with episodic polydrug abuse, alcohol addiction with panic disorder and trauma or PTSD with a variety of substance abuse and process addictions. Many may have more than two disorders that contribute to the maladaptive coping responses. Some common addictions include: alcohol, drugs, gambling, food, shopping, video games, the internet, sex, pornography and work. Successful treatments for addictive behaviors is an integrative approach that may include some combination of psychotherapy and behavioral treatments. EMDR therapy using addiction protocols, psychodynamic psychotherapy and dialectical behavior therapy or DBT are also very effective forms of treatment.
Transition From Addiction Treatment to Aftercare
It is not uncommon for those just released from an addiction treatment program to conclude that their problems are over. You made it through treatment, however the road ahead is paved with uncertainty. You will hear from professionals about the importance of step-down care to reinforce newly-learned coping skills and self-soothing strategies to maintain a healthy life of sober living or harm-reduction.
Aftercare refers to the additional support that is given following release from the residential part of the program. Immediately upon release, aftercare may require extra support such as several times weekly counseling sessions to reinforce new skills, support groups such as AA, Rational Recovery or SMART Recovery, booster sessions and sessions to support family members. The risk of relapse following program release is high, but relapse prevention is a possibility. The first 6o days followed by the next five years seems to be the times of hight-risk.
Why do people relapse?
Following rehab treatment, people are highly motivated and have have the support of community and while triggered by events within the program, the usual go-to substances or behaviors are replaced by more adaptive coping mechanisms. They feel well physically and have confidence. They feel proud of their recovery. Once they return back to the real world, they can find that recovery is more of a challenge. They have left the bubble of the rehab facility and suddenly temptation is everywhere.
Post-recovery, motivation can wane and people often feel that their troubles are behind them. The seem to have amnesia about why they sought recovery in the first place. Rock-bottom seems a distant memory.
People struggling with addictive behaviors turn to substances and behaviors in the first place because they are unable to cope with life. New coping mechanisms must be practiced and reinforced with supportive aftercare. As the individual in recovery is faced with new problems, they will be encouraged to find new solutions. Those who return to substance abuse tend to follow a certain pattern called the relapse process. This begins with becoming stuck in recovery. Recovering individuals who continue to receive support are far more aware of relapse triggers. They are also more likely to spot the warning signs that they are moving down a dark path.
It's important to talk about co-occurring disorders where support is required when an individual has another mental health problem that contributes to or complicates addiction. Many with addiction behaviors can also suffer from depression, social anxiety, ADD, trauma, PTSD, a history of abuse or other types of mental problems that must be addressed. Failure to treat co-occurring conditions will mean that life in recovery is unsatisfactory and more of a challenge. This is a recipe for relapse.
Addiction Recovery Support + Self-Care for Individuals
As an integrative mind-body therapist, I really enjoying working with and supporting individuals just released from a rehab facility and may need ongoing support in the form of individual psychotherapy, group therapy, and when appropriate, family therapy. This gives the person in recovery the opportunity to continue learning and practicing newly learned skills and coping mechanisms. In Addition to attending AA or any other 12-step meeting, Rational Recovery or SMART Recovery meeting, the newly sober person can begin to work on underlying trauma, stressors or co-occurring difficulties that have contributed their misuse of substances or additive behaviors. They can learn and practice the art of extreme self-care to nourish the mind and body replacing the dependence on drugs, alcohol and behavioral addictions.
Recovery Support + Self-Care for Family Members
Getting a loved-one into treatment and finding the right program requires help, support and resources. It's difficult to do this alone. Additionally, family members experience terror and trauma related to the experience of having a family member who is addicted and at-risk. The last thing on one's mind is self-care, but this is the most important thing that you must do for yourself. Asking for help and support for yourself is smart, and will help you feel less alone, stay focused, feel better and remain strong through the process. There are wonderful books written to support families and loved-ones into helping increase motivational factors for the person in the grips of the addiction. A few of my favorites are: How To Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives To Nagging, Pleading and Threatening, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change, Rational Recovery: The New Cure for Substance Addiction and How to Change Your Drinking: a Harm Reduction Guide to Alcohol
Self-care recovery sessions may include EMDR resourcing for fear, anxiety and insomnia, breathing and relaxation techniques, meditation, mindfulness, boundary work, radical acceptance, radical compassion, guided imagery and visualization, yoga therapy, coaching, journaling, and support for bringing the healthier practice of making time for you into your life.
Therapy for Eating Disorder Recovery
Through an integrative lens, Kim Seelbrede offers clinical excellence and support for individuals struggling with the symptoms of an eating disorder. Patients find the strength to confront their problems, learn the tools and skills to overcome their disorder and eventually enter a recovery phase. An integrative therapy approach including interpersonal psychotherapy, behavior therapy and EMDR therapy are effective therapies for bulimia nervosa, binge eating and other forms of ED's. We define treatment success as: the restoration of relationships with family and friends, the ability to return to a productive, healthy and meaningful life, the reduction of eating disorder symptoms and behaviors and a renewed interest in school or work. The goal is to help patients become committed to a life of good health, freedom, balance and purpose. Treatment is most successful when a team approach is utilized.
Integrative Therapy and Stress Management Support
As an integrative therapist with a holistic approach to healing, Kim Seelbrede works with individuals and couples from an experiential, intuitive and present-focused, mindfulness perspective. Her approach is creative: integrating mind-body techniques with the emotional and ancient wisdom of many traditions to create expanded possibilities of healing and growth. As a registered yoga teacher and practitioner, she regularly recommends these helpful practices for her clients. Integrative therapy may include some combination of the following: meditation support, mindfulness, breathing techniques, stress response training, guided imagery, somatic psychotherapy and EMDR therapy to help clients develop resources and self-soothing techniques.
Kim Seelbrede offers consultation sessions to individuals and families about personal and life challenges, a difficult transition or a crisis that may benefit from a focused solution-based approach using assessment, education, guidance, advice and resources. One example might be a family member who is struggling with an addiction and/or a mental health issue. Consultations tend to be time-limited and problem or goal-oriented in nature. Therapy consultations allow a client, parent or family member to explore concerns and to make decisions or changes in their lives that move them in a helpful direction.
The consultation process is an opportunity to speak extensively about a crisis or problems and concerns in your current situation. A psychotherapy consultation is a proactive and preventative approach to obtaining guidance and support during a life transition or a challenging situation. What makes this different from ongoing psychotherapy is that the experience is limited, usually one or two sessions, and is not meant to replace ongoing therapy. A consultation can help a client gain supportive advice, insight, perspective, guidance and resources for their particular circumstance. At the end of the consultation process Kim Seelbrede offers clients an assessment of the situation, a recommendation for treatment if needed and possible referrals to allied professionals, medical doctors or psychological services.
My Mission as a Therapist
- To help clients have more satisfying relationships both personal and professional
- To help clients gain the necessary insight and self-awareness for change to occur
- To help clients recognize and break through obstacles, negative patterns and self-defeating behaviors
- To provide clients with practical skills and support to improve their lives
- To help clients improve their emotional and psychological well being and find balance in their lives
- To support clients through challenging situations or times of transition and change
What to Expect
I am able to provide both short-term therapy such as solution-focused treatment or coaching as well as long-term psychoanalytic psychotherapy that works to resolve conflicts, obstacles and dynamics that interfere with leading a vital and fulfilling life. I am motivated to help my clients achieve their goals as quickly as possible. some individuals have longstanding difficulties that may require a longer course of treatment. A consultation and assessment is the best way to determine client needs.
As a licensed Psychotherapist & Consultant working with individuals in a variety of professional, entrepreneurial and executive positions including entertainment, performance and wellness, I strive to help my clients create work and life balance, manage stress and difficult decisions, enjoy healthier relationships and find clarity of purpose in their lives. Many of the people with whom I work are intelligent, creative and accomplished, but struggle with relationships, anxiety, self-doubt, eating disorders, addictions, depression and emptiness, and feel that they could benefit from self-inquiry and support. I have multiple areas of specialization including work with mental health professionals, professional supervision, physicians, college students, artists, creatives, celebrities, talented and gifted individuals, parents and couples. An additional focus and area of expertise in my work is helping clients who struggle with symptoms related to developmental trauma, attachment difficulties and PTSD. I've had great success using EMDR and other somatic therapies for symptom relief and trauma resolution. I enjoy incorporating a variety of modalities into my private practice, including relaxation and breathing techniques, guided imagery and yoga philosophy along with traditional treatment approaches such psychodynamic and interpersonal psychotherapy, solution-focused therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy or CBT, DBT therapy skills, Mindfulness and EMDR therapy. As a clinician with an integrative, holistic philosophy, I believe that sound emotional well-being is strongly influenced by healthy relationships, nutrition, exercise, sleep, creative outlets, thought patterns, self-care, spirituality and a healthy balance of work and play.
As a former Miss USA, I am someone who understands the unique challenges, demands and struggles of celebrities and talented individuals and therefore have a special interest in celebrity mental health. My own personal life experiences and unique training enables me to provide the mentoring, support and guidance that high-profile clients benefit from the most. I engage clients with collaboration, insight, curiosity, sensitivity, solution and change-oriented approaches and sometimes a healthy dose of humor. I also welcome individuals who could simply benefit from ongoing support or mentoring.
I enjoy blogging and providing relevant and helpful emotional, physical and mental health information in an effort to reach those who might not otherwise have access to psychological help, counseling or therapy. As a registered yoga therapist RYT 200 + 500 level, I enjoy writing about whatever I may stumble upon that is yoga, meditation and mindfulness related. Therapy, Coaching & Consultation Psychotherapy in Manhattan, or when appropriate, online via telephone Skype or a HIPPA compliant service.
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- Anxiety - Panic attacks, fear, excessive worry, phobias, obsessive-compulsive behaviors
- Depression - Major Depression, Dysthymia, Bipolar Disorder, sadness, irritability, social withdrawal, hopelessness, sleep disturbances, guilt, lack of desire, poor concentration.
- Eating Disorders - Compulsion to eat or not eat as well as other disturbances in body image and thoughts, beliefs and behaviors affecting physical and mental health.
- Addictions - Destructive coping skills and compulsions to engage in specific activities despite negative consequences to one’s health, mental state, career, family and social life as well as co-occurring or underlying mental health problems such as ADD, anxiety, trauma and depression that may have led to the reliance on substances or problem behaviors
- Trauma - Sexual, physical and verbal abuse, repeating family dynamics, violence, witnessing or involvement in crime, catastrophic events, rape, accidents
- Recovery - Support for individuals in all stages of recovery from addictions, alcohol, eating disorders, anxiety, depression and trauma (pre-rehab, post-rehab or residential step-down support), wellness planning, practicing new habits, maintenance and self-care
- Sexual Disorders - Difficulty during any stage of the sexual act (desire, arousal, orgasm, resolution) that prevents or limits the enjoyment of healthy sexual activity, either alone or in the context of relationships
- Life Changes - Transitions in the life cycle that cause emotional, psychological and physical challenges (new relationships, marriage, birth of a child, aging, ending relationships, separation, divorce, career or job struggles, death of loved one, becoming sober or challenges to maintaing sobriety
- Creativity and Success - Blocks in writing, creating and producing, repetitive patterns of self-sabotage and self-defeating patterns, perfectionism, fear of failure, fear of success, neurotic undoing
- Communication Difficulties and Relationship Problems - Difficulties identifying and expressing emotions and feelings, feeling victimized, attacked and blamed, defensiveness, problems listening or understanding another, feeling easily angered and triggered, frustrations due to not feeling heard or seen, violent or destructive communication patterns, problems with intimacy or maintaining relationships, adult children of alcoholics, family of origin problems
- Postpartum, Parenting Issues, Family Problems and Crisis Counseling - Feeling easily frustrated, alone or isolated, overwhelmed and confused, difficulties communicating feelings and needs, exhaustion, helping a loved-one get sober, mental health issues affecting family members
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